I do try to be considerate. Some years ago when we had a 12 – seater van and about ten school-age children plus several pre-schoolers, I thought with all those kids underfoot, Bonnie really ought to have a vacation, lest she get burned out. I said to her “Bonnie, you're getting burned out. You really need some relaxation. You need a little rest. Why don't I watch things here at the house, and you throw a few things into the van that you might need for a few days and take the kids and go!”.
She never did take me up on that generous-hearted offer.